I can't do bankruptcy because it affects my wife's credit. My credit score is very very bad, so I cannot get a consolidation loan. I don't own my own house, so I am unable to get an equity loan. I'm running into walls here, and I need help. Thanks!
Step 1. Pay your debts on time.
Step 2. Organize your debts from least amount to greatest.
Step 3. Pay the minimum amounts required on your debt except for the account with the smallest balance.
Step 4. Pay at least the minimum on your smallest amount and as much as you can each month in addition until that card is paid off.
Step 5. Take the entire amount of money you had been paying on your smallest account and apply it, per month, to your next account with the now smallest amount.
Step 6. Lather, rinse, repeat. This will create a snowball effect and get you out of debt.
I believe I got this from Dave Ramsey. There are other theories out there, but this one has a psychological effect to help keep you going as you're making visible progress to help keep it up.
There are a couple of personal finance blogs that you can go to for further resources:
http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/
http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/
http://www.daveramsey.com/
and the forums over at the motley fool
http://www.fool.com
If you decide to go the credit counselor route, be sure and pick a non-profit organization. All credit counselors are NOT the same and there are a lot of scam artists out there.
Good luck!